Long, Ride, Testing

Yesterday I went home at noon because I had a home inspection scheduled for the buyer.  I was told by my realtor it should take a couple hours so I planned for that mentally. I grabbed Elsa and first took her over to the park to get a walk in, a good use of time.  However after that was complete I figured I would just hang in my truck until the inspector was done whom I was monitoring via my Ring cameras.  I waited and waited, dozing off in my truck several times.  When 4 o’clock hit I drove down to DD for coffee and texted my realtor letting her know he was still there.

She reached out to the buyers realtor who was also at the house.  She told me he was almost done but I could go back to the house at this point.  She did mention that the inspector saw evidence of termite damage in the attic which sent a wave of panic through me.  She described it as “minor” but any time the word termite is in a sentence it’s a bad thing.  I also told her I have had an annual subterranean termite treatment done since the house was built.  I was now anxious to get home to talk to this inspector before he left.

When I pulled in the driveway the guy was running the sprinkler system through tests.  I asked him about what he saw in the attic.  He said there was very minor signs of termite activity on one truss.  He didn’t see any evidence it was still active and the damage wasn’t anything that compromised the truss integrity but still should be spot treated.  I mentioned how I have had the house treated for termite prevention but he said this would be from dry wood termites which fly and don’t enter from the ground level.  He again said the damage was minimal but he just had to include it on his report.

The only other thing of note he mentioned was he saw evidence of heat distress on one wire going to the circuit breaker box.  He said it was the line going to the hot water heater.  This was a head scratcher but later I theorized at some point in time high current was inadvertently pumped through the circuit by either when a heating element in an old water heater failed or when I directly wired my generator to the breaker box after hurricane Wilma.  I am relatively sure it’s fine, but again he had to report it.  Otherwise he said the house seems pretty great which I was happy to hear.

I made last minute plans to go down and ride bike with Monique.  We had done this a couple of times before and it sounded like a good mental break for me from all of the house sale things that have been spinning around.  We actually headed out on the bikes with Susi and her boyfriend as well but they soon split off on their own route.  It was good to catch up with Monique. It was the first time we had a chance to talk one on one since before the holidays.  I got to hang with little Leilani for a bit as well which is always valuable time to me.

So the past couple days I have had friends of mine turn me onto something I never really did before, personality tests.  I have always found the Zodiac signs interesting and more recently another friend told me about the Chinese Zodiac which not only is based on your birth month but also the year.  The Fire Goat sign I fall under seems like a pretty accurate match for many of my traits.  However a personality test doesn’t care when you are born, instead you answer a number of questions honestly on a scale system where you either agree or disagree to varying degrees to the question being asked.  I am always interested in collecting data so I took both of these tests.  One is here and the other is here.

With the 16 Personalities site I was identified as a ISFJA Defender on Ennegram I am a type 2, a Giver.  When I read the breakdown of both tests they both more or less accurately described me with detail that I found both interesting and somewhat disturbing.  In a nutshell at my core I feel like the way to get people to like/love me is to give of myself, sometimes to my detriment.  I am so focused on doing for others yet I am normally uncomfortable receiving similar generosity.  There are pages of break down about my traits both good and bad, and again they seemed pretty spot on.

One thing I found interesting was how these traits can mutate based on if an individual is “healthy”, “average”, or “unhealthy” in terms of their emotional wellness.  I honestly can think of examples of me exhibiting all of the traits mentioned at one point or another.  It also mentioned how this type of personality has a very strong desire to have a partner to share life with which is something I have expressed repeatedly.  This hard wired desire is in constant conflict with my efforts to become a person that can be happy single, indefinitely.  It’s a real tug of war mentally.

I also looked at how certain combinations of personalities match up which again is very interesting.  I would be well served that before I embark on a perspective relationship with anyone I should have them take these tests to save both of us headaches down the road.  There are certain combos that just will not work.  These tests have helped to open my eyes even further to why I do what I do in certain situations, to my detriment unfortunately at times.  I am hoping this awareness helps me in the future take a more balanced and healthy approach in a relationship.

One other thing that came up was how if a type 2 is not in a relationship they can seek getting that approval or validation in other ways.  This instantly tied into my thoughts about my sharing on social media recently.  I give content, I get “likes” or positive comments.  It still all feeds the same beast.